Let me just explain. Patience has never been one of my strong points and I have never managed delayed gratification well. I have worked hard over the years and I am sure I have improved,
2 days ago HRH held his arms up to me and said 'han'. I didn't understand so he said it again. He walked away and came back to say it again, and again. He held up his arms again and I lifted him up, still not understanding. He said 'dow' so I put him down and then he held up his arms and said 'han' again. I was lost, so held out my arms to him and he took both of my hands (duh me!!). He held both of them and started to move and I realised he wanted to play 'ring and ring a rosy'. You should have seen the relief on his face when he realised I understood.
As I sang the song I was just bursting with excitement. Honestly, this was such a precious moment. Two new words and a verbal request to play with him. He never broke eye contact, smiling at me until we got to 'all fall down' and then he ran off, happy.
This is when I realised how much I have changed over the last 7 months, since he was diagnosed with autism. I have found reserves of patience that I genuinely didn't know I had. HRH does little things every day to amaze me. This was a big event and it will keep me going until the next 'big thing'. I have thought about it going asleep every night since and I smile while thinking about it first thing in the morning.
I can be patient and wait for the next 'big thing', it will come and it will come in his own time. I didn't know I had it in me!
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That is so cute! He did a great job and was persistent too.
I'm with you on the patience thing. I give it all to my children, especially Gracie, and I have none left for anything else. When the kids need it, I can find is somewhere.
He is gorgeous, a lucky little boy to have you behind him.
Great stuff, Jen! He sure is a cutie! Just wanna squeeze those cheeks. It is amazing how you find out what you are made of when you have to!
He's coming in leaps and bounds. That's just wonderful! I think we all have patience somewhere, just different quotas and for different things!
I can't keep up! He's doing so many new things - the world really is his oyster! And soooooo gorgeous! xx
I don't know why this made me get a lump in my throat but it did Jen. He really is amazing and coming on in leaps and bounds. Can't wait to hear what he does next! xxx
I posted a comment and it's vanished! Just wanted to say how wonderful and I hope the next "big thing' comes along very very soon x
That's a lovely post I am all teary x
Oh wow, I'm SOOO chuffed for you! What a great step for your lil guy! :) xx
I have a lump in my throat too, so lovely to hear of the happy times in your home.
Our grandson was in a shell and would not/could not make verbal sounds.We bought a learning toy computer that asked questions aloud and answered oh-oh try again if the answer was wrong and with excellent when it was right.Grandpa spent many happy hours with grandson on his lap patiently waiting until they got to hear excellent. He was diagnosed years later with Asbergers.He is in 6th grade at a regular school and gets almost all A's,the rest B's.
That toy and grandpas patience brought him out of his shell (his own little world) and we thank God for that toy. Needless to say he still likes to crawl onto gramps lap and give him a big hug :-)
He really is flying it Jen! Becoming a parent teaches you so much about yourself and in my case I'm discovering that I have limitless patience when it comes to my daughter. I never new I was capable of this (I am the most impatient person ever) even my mother is amazed at the transformation.
Well done HRH x
Inspirational... Sinead
aww wow, that sounds like an amazing moment. im so happy for you and hope the next big moment comes soon.
xxx
Thanks for the comments, still a bit surprised at myself and my discovery lol, but it feels good too:) Jen.
that made me smile and i got so teary what a great post xxx
What a precious moment!.....you're right, I think although having an ASD child can be hard, it can also teach us so much :)
Love the new look of the site- very cool!
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This is lovely. The happiness has made me smile.
being a parent brings out the best in all of us and being a good parent brings out the best in our children. ... also he is so cute!! my boys are big monsters now and i miss the old them!
Paula
Such a beautiful, clever boy and what an amazing mum you are too. You are a complete inspiration xx
In tears here Jen....tears of joy of course!
What a fabulous, precious moment. It will be etched in your heart forever.
You're right....the sense of relief they get when they're understood is amazing. It makes you realise how hard things are for them pre-interventions.
So well done to all in the HRH household for achieving such a momentous moment!! Cherish and enjoy...... there WILL be more :))
xx Jazzy
Wonderful post!
Adorable picture!
The "Love is Patient" reading is very popular at weddings, we had it at our, too...actually - I have a pretty large tattoo of a heartshaped stopwatch with the words written around it in a banner...(I know, you're shocked - no one pegs me as the tattoo getting type...but no one can see it unless I'm swimming - it's on my hip).
Thank you for the kind comments about my children! They aren't always that nice to each other...but when they are it just makes my heart so happy!
As for the video - I used Windows Movie Maker and it was SO easy! If you have the program you should give it a try. I didn't even know I had the program but it was already installed on my laptop when I bought it!
Have a wonderful day!
Such a lovely post! I know I've said it before but he really is gorgeous! He has the most adorable eyes!
I remember my Mother having those 'love is' tea towels :) x
Isn't he the cutest? I love your attitude about patience. I could use a big dose of that myself these days...
Thanks for the happy encouragement!
it's one of those precious moments that money just can't buy. WTG HRH xxx
What a fantastic feeling that must have been, I can just picture you doing ring a rosie with him and enjoying every minute, its true that you find reserves of every emotion not just patience with our children, I love my children but I swear I love them more and more every day I see a breakthrough and then I burst with pride. Well done HRH, gorgeous little man xxx
Hi,
I found your blog through the MAD award nominations and have been avidly reading it from start to finish for the last few days. It's beautifully written and the subject matter is close to my heart - I've been a full-time ABA tutor for the last 5 years. I just wanted to say thank you for sharing your journey.
ABA is fantastic - the child I work with was similar to your son at diagnosis, but now at nearly 10 years old, he is fully integrated in a mainstream primary school, is popular and sociable, fully verbal and very, very bright. I wish you all the luck with your programme.
Beth x
Sounds like HRH is teaching you patience as you teach him all the things he needs to know! :)
well done on writing such a heartfelt post!
yay! I can just see his smile and eye contact going on. He loved his new slide alright... "dowwwwww".
That is beautiful!
Yeah!!!!! That is great news! The request to play is awesome!
That is just so lovely.
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